Facing Christmas After Bereavement
The first Christmas after a loved one dies can be extremely difficult but it isn’t just the first Christmas. As the years go by you may find that the festive season brings back all of those heightened emotions; the longing to have that person near, the sadness at what they are missing out on as your life and family grows.
Some things to consider…
As much as it is painful it can help to have a plan and think about how you are going to spend Christmas after bereavement. You may want to keep old traditions going or you may want to go and do something completely different such as spend the festive season abroad or volunteer on Christmas Day.
You may want to include memories of your loved one in the Christmas celebrations; a recipe they used perhaps or photographs. It could be that a trip to their grave on Christmas morning helps or you may want to light a candle in their memory.
Be Kind To Yourself
There is no right way to grieve. Trust your instincts and do what is right for you. Above all be kind to yourself and ask for help if you need it.
Cruse Bereavement Care recognises how hard it can be that first Christmas and all the ones that follow. This is why they have extra volunteers enabling their Helpline to stay open over the Christmas period.
Cruse’s National Helpline offers a listening ear and emotional support, no matter how recent or long ago your bereavement was. The number is 0808 8081677. Please follow the link for details of their opening times: https://www.cruse.org.uk/telephone-support/christmas